Bad Boys, Bad Boys...Wachya Gonna Do?

The one thing men should know is that alot of women don't fall for a man because of his looks or clothes. It's the aura of a man that allures us and traps us. The more aloof a man is, the more magnetic and appealing he becomes. The "bad boy" is an emotionally complex, unavailable, inconsistent, non-committal and confusing man. This doesn't seem the least bit attractive, yet it is.

Maybe the women who want bad boys are self-destructive; maybe they long for someone to love; or maybe they've watched one too many movies where the bad boy finally changes for the woman he loves.

Hollywood has long been the cheerleader for the brooding bad boy who challenges everyone until he meets "her". That one girl offers him unconditional love in the middle of his emotional and physical turmoil (even through abuse) and he ends up realizing how much he loves her and....blah blah blah...happily ever after.

I also think alot of women want to be rescued. Whether saviour from being lonely, poor, insecure or depressed. They might be disillusioned to believe it will all change with the love of a man. A bad boy seems to fit the Hollywood stereotype of a romantic hero a bit more than an average Joe.

I don't know the reasons behind why women pursue bad boys. Even with the problems and difficulties they know they'll face, they still fall into the chase. And if you're in the middle of pursuit - Can you snap out of it if you're in it? Or do you have to go through it and get hurt to get over it?

I'd love to know how the female mind works, especially when she knows she's about to be hurt but willingly steps into it.